Do as I say Why isn’t most advice followed? The reasons are multiple: Those offering it may be wrong, they may not have crucial context, their advice may only make sense with their own lived experience, they may be sufficiently different that their advice might not apply to the person they are offering it to, or perhaps the advice is simply too hard to follow. As a result, advice, typically, is ignored, the anonymous writer behind Dynomight notes. So what can those asking for advice, and those offering it, do? The former group may want to consider the number of people offering them the same, or similar, advice, as indicative of whether it is needed, whereas the latter group should have “realistic expectations,” Dynomight notes. “Most advice isn’t followed.” Failed confinement 20th century feminism benefited hugely from thinkers and activists including Simone de Beauvoir and Virginia Woolf, but they were far from alone: Among those whose contributions to the movement have not received due consideration is Raden Adjeng Kartini, a woman who hails from what is now Indonesia. Kartini had a privileged upbringing, the daughter of a progressive local official in the archipelago’s Dutch colonial government, but was nevertheless subject to the local tradition of being confined to the home while going through puberty. So she turned to books. Kartini wrote prolifically about “the power of education to uplift Javanese society, particularly women,” the researcher Alice Evans writes in her newsletter, The Great Gender Divergence. And her years-long confinement only served to strengthen her beliefs, rather than dull them. “I am told that I must modestly (hypocritically) cast down my eyes,” Kartini wrote. “I will not do that; I will look men, as well as women, straight in the eyes, not cast down my own before them.” Book smart For many, the world of books is a place to discover new ideas, travel the world, learn about new people and their lives. For some, the place where books can be found is itself an escape. The author and journalist Samanth Subramanian relates the stories of two people he has met who live in libraries, having dedicated their lives solely to the act of reading. One, a student of English literature in India, decided to focus on reading “the canon” of the language’s greatest books and authors, and eventually convinced a librarian to let him spend the night inside the repository of writing. “The man told me this story to illustrate how, given the sparseness of his school education, he had to catch up with this extreme measure,” Subramanian writes. “But I, starved for time like many others these days, had in my mind an opposite reaction. What bliss to be able to devote yourself in this manner to reading!” |